I have been busy doing everything and nothing. I don't know if this is even read by anyone or has been read lately...
but I have been busy reading Other Peoples Blogs, OPB. It even has its own tune, sung to the familiar tune of Naughty by Nature's song OPP, 'cause...yeah.
I think I'll go back to blogging. I might even get bold and post it so that other folks can see it.
There's a LOT to write about...much more to be learned from fleshing it all out.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Ready to do you.com.net.gov.edu
This broad here!! Read the following. I LOVE this chick:
"I had been single for 9 years since my last relationship (some cut buddies and losers in between but single nonetheless). And in those nine years, I would say that in the last 5 years, I really thought I KNEW myself and what I wanted and didn't want and needed and so on.
I had met tons of "potentials" but nobody that really hit the mark. It's partially being "ready" and partially "being ready to be single for the rest of your life."
I know it sounds crazy but when [her current dude] and I were EXTRA platonic friend we were talking about love and relationships and he said to me, "you know ... you really aren't ready to be in a relationship until you're ready to be single for the rest of your life."
I thought about it and it made sense. When you're ready to REALLY say "fuck it, I don't care" is when things aren't as desperate. A lot of women don't really believe they are being desperate but there are things that we do that are desperate acts like PAYING FOR SHIT because they don't have it or ACCEPTING SHIT that you KNOW you shouldn't because you are little worried that you're getting old and that there's a chance that you might miss the boat.
You ACT different when you are REALLY ready to be single for your whole entire life. I know I did. At 29 years old, I arrived. Fuck it. Fuck you. I'm not breaking my neck just to say I got a nigga.com.net.edu.org.biz ... you know the rest. I always say that [her dude] attempted to "break up" with me a few weeks after I visited ATL.
I told him that I completely understood (even though I didn't because I never was WITH you so why are you breaking up??) and that I thought he was a great man and that I wished him all the best. He didn't know what to do with himself.
You see, the old me would have tried to help him understand why I thought he was the one for me.
The new me don't really give a fuck.
After I sent him his well wishes he bought a plane ticket the NEXT MORNING to fly out here and confess his undying love for me.
And if it don't work out ... I'm still READY."
And so...if you stay ready...ready to do you, be you, love you...you ain't got to get ready 'cause you're already there.
{and now...I'm so here...which is why you and he, and him, and they and them and whomever need to read this}
"I had been single for 9 years since my last relationship (some cut buddies and losers in between but single nonetheless). And in those nine years, I would say that in the last 5 years, I really thought I KNEW myself and what I wanted and didn't want and needed and so on.
I had met tons of "potentials" but nobody that really hit the mark. It's partially being "ready" and partially "being ready to be single for the rest of your life."
I know it sounds crazy but when [her current dude] and I were EXTRA platonic friend we were talking about love and relationships and he said to me, "you know ... you really aren't ready to be in a relationship until you're ready to be single for the rest of your life."
I thought about it and it made sense. When you're ready to REALLY say "fuck it, I don't care" is when things aren't as desperate. A lot of women don't really believe they are being desperate but there are things that we do that are desperate acts like PAYING FOR SHIT because they don't have it or ACCEPTING SHIT that you KNOW you shouldn't because you are little worried that you're getting old and that there's a chance that you might miss the boat.
You ACT different when you are REALLY ready to be single for your whole entire life. I know I did. At 29 years old, I arrived. Fuck it. Fuck you. I'm not breaking my neck just to say I got a nigga.com.net.edu.org.biz ... you know the rest. I always say that [her dude] attempted to "break up" with me a few weeks after I visited ATL.
I told him that I completely understood (even though I didn't because I never was WITH you so why are you breaking up??) and that I thought he was a great man and that I wished him all the best. He didn't know what to do with himself.
You see, the old me would have tried to help him understand why I thought he was the one for me.
The new me don't really give a fuck.
After I sent him his well wishes he bought a plane ticket the NEXT MORNING to fly out here and confess his undying love for me.
And if it don't work out ... I'm still READY."
And so...if you stay ready...ready to do you, be you, love you...you ain't got to get ready 'cause you're already there.
{and now...I'm so here...which is why you and he, and him, and they and them and whomever need to read this}
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Measuring love...
I saw him last night.
I went to our mutual friend's little game night social gathering for drinks and food and games...it was fun. He had his son and had plans to go to something else (he went to a h.s. production of 'The Wiz') at a theatre that was in my neck of the woods.
After, he called our friend. She'd previously invited him in the same email she'd invited me.
I'd been there for a little while before he got there. I was already tipsy and having fun. There was a man there that I would "have" just on principle 'cause he moved me like that. Woooo. But he's a friend of the hostess and he's doing "something" with another of her friends, even though everyone is single.
So, in he walks. I don't meet his eyes. We're already doing Taboo and well into it. Hostess introduces everyone around and he says "Hey...." I said "Hi." I still don't look up, though he's standing right next to me now.
He's got his son with him, too, so my wee one and his son go off to play in the Hostess' room. They're fine.
I guess he eats and gets some wine and joins us in the fun. So, he does his Taboo turn and is a hit and gives some really funny clues. Really.
And we just coexist in the same room, not relating.
Something happens with the kids, and that's when he comes to me, calls my name (which I didn't realize at first) and says wee one is doing something. I looked up and looked him directly in the eye...for the first time that night. I go...do.
And we all do our thing. So my turn comes up again and The Man is up there with me. I'm touchy feely, Hostess is now taking pictures, so he catches one of us. For one of them, he grabs me and we embrace, she takes a pic. He's about 6 feet even, maybe 6'1". I was barefoot, as we all were. He's thick, but in no way fat. Like a dude who used to work out a lot, but has gained a little weight. It felt good underhand.
So we're up there and I'm just vibing off the energy...needed a bit of testosterone in my atmosphere. This was safe because, though I have to admit I wanted 'some' (of him specifically: gat damn), he's off limits. At least...yeah, off limits.
So, we play a little more and eventually the fellas win at Taboo. Xlove's kid gets a bit sleepy, so he starts getting him ready to go.
But he sits down in a chair for a few. I took him aside, in the Hostess' bedroom.
I say to him something like (I was drunk, can't remember exactly) like ...I can't remember, but my point was that he'd cut me off, figuratively speaking and won't talk to me, but we can show that we can be in the same room together. He says, "I don't hate you." So I say, "Then what is it?"
He said he's been in a funk the last weeks and just needs to sort some things out. He said this hasn't been easy for him. I asked how so, it appears that way (that it's easy)... He says he just needs some time.
It's funny, he's visibly uncomfortable. I was leaning back against a wall, just looking up at him. I wanted to embrace him, to kiss him. Again...I was drunk. I saw him look at me and his eyes watered a bit (he wasn't drunk) and he looked away, at the TV, blinking. I have to admit that delighted me a bit.
I'm still in his heart.
It made me feel good that I'm not hurt by myself. Although...the pain is much less.
I was so horny though.
So, later, I sent him a text that I wanted him. BADLY. Gawd, I was so horny. I had help in remaining chaste though. #1, I was so drunk that I couldn't drive to go any.where. (Dammit) The former who has a crush on me again...he was out of the area, bowling. The last ex/booty call was in San Diego. He's eager though...so I'm SO GLAD that he wasn't around. And, of course, Xlove didn't answer me.
I just wanted his arms.
So, I wound up sticking around, 'cause I was DRUNK!! and couldn't even get clear enough to drive home. Woooooo.
We (another friend who came with a dude she's seeing who's friends with Hostess), that other dude, The Man, Hostess' friend who's "something"-ing with The Man, Hostess and Host Hubby sat around listening to music, drinking tea and playing Uno. Hostess' friend had to lay it down, so that left the rest of us playing...the Hostess and our friend went to lay down, too. So now I'm at a table with Host Hubby, The Man and other dude.
It's all cool and groovy and my fade gradually fades...but I'm still flirting with The Man. He lives in my city, too.
Another circumstance...he would get it. And like Meshell said, "Mad sex and when we're through, I really have no problem actin' like I don't know you..."
I fall into the house closing in on 5 a.m. this morning. Happy, having had fun, having let out the leash a little further.
Hostess gave me a book, "The Language of Letting Go."
mkay. This night helped, too.
I went to our mutual friend's little game night social gathering for drinks and food and games...it was fun. He had his son and had plans to go to something else (he went to a h.s. production of 'The Wiz') at a theatre that was in my neck of the woods.
After, he called our friend. She'd previously invited him in the same email she'd invited me.
I'd been there for a little while before he got there. I was already tipsy and having fun. There was a man there that I would "have" just on principle 'cause he moved me like that. Woooo. But he's a friend of the hostess and he's doing "something" with another of her friends, even though everyone is single.
So, in he walks. I don't meet his eyes. We're already doing Taboo and well into it. Hostess introduces everyone around and he says "Hey...." I said "Hi." I still don't look up, though he's standing right next to me now.
He's got his son with him, too, so my wee one and his son go off to play in the Hostess' room. They're fine.
I guess he eats and gets some wine and joins us in the fun. So, he does his Taboo turn and is a hit and gives some really funny clues. Really.
And we just coexist in the same room, not relating.
Something happens with the kids, and that's when he comes to me, calls my name (which I didn't realize at first) and says wee one is doing something. I looked up and looked him directly in the eye...for the first time that night. I go...do.
And we all do our thing. So my turn comes up again and The Man is up there with me. I'm touchy feely, Hostess is now taking pictures, so he catches one of us. For one of them, he grabs me and we embrace, she takes a pic. He's about 6 feet even, maybe 6'1". I was barefoot, as we all were. He's thick, but in no way fat. Like a dude who used to work out a lot, but has gained a little weight. It felt good underhand.
So we're up there and I'm just vibing off the energy...needed a bit of testosterone in my atmosphere. This was safe because, though I have to admit I wanted 'some' (of him specifically: gat damn), he's off limits. At least...yeah, off limits.
So, we play a little more and eventually the fellas win at Taboo. Xlove's kid gets a bit sleepy, so he starts getting him ready to go.
But he sits down in a chair for a few. I took him aside, in the Hostess' bedroom.
I say to him something like (I was drunk, can't remember exactly) like ...I can't remember, but my point was that he'd cut me off, figuratively speaking and won't talk to me, but we can show that we can be in the same room together. He says, "I don't hate you." So I say, "Then what is it?"
He said he's been in a funk the last weeks and just needs to sort some things out. He said this hasn't been easy for him. I asked how so, it appears that way (that it's easy)... He says he just needs some time.
It's funny, he's visibly uncomfortable. I was leaning back against a wall, just looking up at him. I wanted to embrace him, to kiss him. Again...I was drunk. I saw him look at me and his eyes watered a bit (he wasn't drunk) and he looked away, at the TV, blinking. I have to admit that delighted me a bit.
I'm still in his heart.
It made me feel good that I'm not hurt by myself. Although...the pain is much less.
I was so horny though.
So, later, I sent him a text that I wanted him. BADLY. Gawd, I was so horny. I had help in remaining chaste though. #1, I was so drunk that I couldn't drive to go any.where. (Dammit) The former who has a crush on me again...he was out of the area, bowling. The last ex/booty call was in San Diego. He's eager though...so I'm SO GLAD that he wasn't around. And, of course, Xlove didn't answer me.
I just wanted his arms.
So, I wound up sticking around, 'cause I was DRUNK!! and couldn't even get clear enough to drive home. Woooooo.
We (another friend who came with a dude she's seeing who's friends with Hostess), that other dude, The Man, Hostess' friend who's "something"-ing with The Man, Hostess and Host Hubby sat around listening to music, drinking tea and playing Uno. Hostess' friend had to lay it down, so that left the rest of us playing...the Hostess and our friend went to lay down, too. So now I'm at a table with Host Hubby, The Man and other dude.
It's all cool and groovy and my fade gradually fades...but I'm still flirting with The Man. He lives in my city, too.
Another circumstance...he would get it. And like Meshell said, "Mad sex and when we're through, I really have no problem actin' like I don't know you..."
I fall into the house closing in on 5 a.m. this morning. Happy, having had fun, having let out the leash a little further.
Hostess gave me a book, "The Language of Letting Go."
mkay. This night helped, too.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Over it
Okay, so this is a big ass relationship blog? No. But that's what I've felt like writing about.
So, yesterday's done, and I think I'm over it. I sat and blubbered and snotted and cried until I had a headache. I heaved and became hoarse from crying. My eyes were irritatted and my nose stuffy from accumulation of mucus.
There is something to be said for release.
*wooooooo saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhh* never felt so good.
I am so much lighter and feeling of "me" that, were it not for the thoughts that drift to him, I'd be completely "better".
Over it doesn't mean I don't think of him, want to check on him, still love him. Over it means the acute bleeding has stopped and thrombin has begin to seal off the blood flow. Soon a scab will form. Really hope, if he decides to make contact, that he doesn't do it in that time: I know how I am and that won't be a good look for him.
Afterward, the scab falls off and there is new skin. I don't want my skin thick, just new again.
So, yesterday's done, and I think I'm over it. I sat and blubbered and snotted and cried until I had a headache. I heaved and became hoarse from crying. My eyes were irritatted and my nose stuffy from accumulation of mucus.
There is something to be said for release.
*wooooooo saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhh* never felt so good.
I am so much lighter and feeling of "me" that, were it not for the thoughts that drift to him, I'd be completely "better".
Over it doesn't mean I don't think of him, want to check on him, still love him. Over it means the acute bleeding has stopped and thrombin has begin to seal off the blood flow. Soon a scab will form. Really hope, if he decides to make contact, that he doesn't do it in that time: I know how I am and that won't be a good look for him.
Afterward, the scab falls off and there is new skin. I don't want my skin thick, just new again.
Friday, November 20, 2009
Heart Burn
This hurts so bad.
How do people do this over and over and over.
Maybe I've never actually been here before.
It doesn't feel like I have.
I can't remember this pain before X.
I remember sadness, dejection.
I remember lonliness.
Never this.
now
I remember love
I don't remember this grief
I don't remember not feeling happiness thinking of him
I don't remember not wanting to hate
I don't remember not wanting his arms
I don't remember bone-quaking
teeth-chattering crying, sobbing
I don't remember this pain
I don't remember having my sex
masturbation
becoming an emotional minefield
I don't remember
I don't remember my heart before
I don't remember thinking
without him
I don't remember loving anyone else
I don't remember love
before I saw his words
I don't remember before I saw his face
I don't remember love before that first embrace
I don't remember home without him in it
I don't remember how I feel
I don't remember how to do
I don't remember not thinking
feeling of him
I
I remember the scent,
him alone, us together
I remember his face
smiling, frowning, twisted with expression
I remember his eyes
he loved me with them
I remember his hands
I held them, he supported me with them
I remember his lips
his voice as it passed through them
I remember his feet
on my side
I remember not wanting to reach
but I reached
I remember not having time
but I gave it
willingly
I remember not wanting to hear
but I listened
I remember wanting to listen
but he wouldn't talk
I remember not wanting to touch
and he held me
I remember open
and glad and honest
I remember happy
the heat of my skin
when he touched me, when he was near
when he loved me
when I heard him
I remember when he told me
not the same words
that I'd used
I remember he explained his depth
I remember my heart exploded
at his in-loveness
I remember me in love
with him.
(c) 2009 JRC
"Fool of Me" - Meshell Ndegeocello
How do people do this over and over and over.
Maybe I've never actually been here before.
It doesn't feel like I have.
I can't remember this pain before X.
I remember sadness, dejection.
I remember lonliness.
Never this.
now
I remember love
I don't remember this grief
I don't remember not feeling happiness thinking of him
I don't remember not wanting to hate
I don't remember not wanting his arms
I don't remember bone-quaking
teeth-chattering crying, sobbing
I don't remember this pain
I don't remember having my sex
masturbation
becoming an emotional minefield
I don't remember
I don't remember my heart before
I don't remember thinking
without him
I don't remember loving anyone else
I don't remember love
before I saw his words
I don't remember before I saw his face
I don't remember love before that first embrace
I don't remember home without him in it
I don't remember how I feel
I don't remember how to do
I don't remember not thinking
feeling of him
I
I remember the scent,
him alone, us together
I remember his face
smiling, frowning, twisted with expression
I remember his eyes
he loved me with them
I remember his hands
I held them, he supported me with them
I remember his lips
his voice as it passed through them
I remember his feet
on my side
I remember not wanting to reach
but I reached
I remember not having time
but I gave it
willingly
I remember not wanting to hear
but I listened
I remember wanting to listen
but he wouldn't talk
I remember not wanting to touch
and he held me
I remember open
and glad and honest
I remember happy
the heat of my skin
when he touched me, when he was near
when he loved me
when I heard him
I remember when he told me
not the same words
that I'd used
I remember he explained his depth
I remember my heart exploded
at his in-loveness
I remember me in love
with him.
(c) 2009 JRC
"Fool of Me" - Meshell Ndegeocello
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Sunday, November 08, 2009
Thursday, November 05, 2009
Been so long
since I've written. I've written in other places...then stopped that too.
Do I only blog when I'm having issues with the fellas in my life? Do I only blog to release from that shit? Maybe.
I'm in love right now...and it's causing me emotional and physical pain right now. I need to exercise this. NEED to.
I will be attempting to not contact him...until. When that "until" is, I don't know. He's on some "power trip" about the party who cares the least wins. If that's the game he's playing, then it's clear that it IS a game and I want no parts of it. I just need to let this feeling, this tie, this thing dissipate and move on.
I still have some of his stuff here. It's actually a good amount of stuff. He doesn't have a lot in the way of clothing, so a pair of jeans, a couple of work shirts, some undies and undershirts (I bought a few of those undershirts *sigh*) and socks (he has the ones I bought...and the mofo never even said thank you!) is a lot...
Wait. That helped. Yes, I bought them and put them in the drawer like nothing...but you know damn well what you brought here from your house and you know what you had. And those extra things...nope, you didn't have those. You never even intimated, subtly acknowledged them...just took it for granted.
back on track...I have some things at his place, a robe, travel kit toothbrush, phone charger, Carmex (a must no matter where I lay my head). It's nothing too major though my phone charger is a PITA to acquire again and my robe in my good, cold weather and travel robe (it has a hood).
This 'break-up' was honestly brewing and would have come anyway. I'd changed since he'd had a temper tantrum a few weeks ago. And every.week.it.was.something. That was old.
The problem is...the problem is with him. That is to say, one doesn't know there's a problem until suddenly he's exploding about some minor shit. THEN...he pulls out and enumerates about a buncha shit that either has nothing to do with you or was inconsequential at the time so he decided to save it up and make it something.
Oh...and is it my baggage that you equate chivalry/politeness with blows against your purported manhood? Is it my baggage that you feel some kind of way about opening a door for me because then, according to your experience, if you open/hold the door, you think that'll mean I expect you to pay my bills? WTF? That's called damage, man. Damage.
Shit, for me, that makes me feel like, "What the hell do I need you for?" I want to feel protected and feminine. And yes, wrong or right as it may be, my femininity is tied up in some of society's ancient mores of superficial social roles for men and women. If I'm carrying three bags and your hands are empty, it's not chauvanistic to think, expect, that you should help...hell, just offer. If I decline, then oh well. But it's the thought that goes forever, if you're not even asking? Nah. Hell, I'll get my carpentry, plumbing, electrician or auto mechanic skills on if I wanna, but then, I'd still like you to open my car or building door, hold out my chair and see me seated first.
Thank you for rubbing my feet though (even though your class counselor had to tell you to do it and it's a good thing!).
But then...I also have my need to "take care of"...it's a fuckin' weakness that can be my undoing...if I were to let it.
He had a procedure today. I was supposed to be with him for it and helping him after. We broke up on Sunday...or rather, I was un-girlfriended (via facebook, no less). I still would have taken him and seen him through it. Hell, maturity is...some things are beyond your personal shit.
Hell, I saw Robert through his knee surgery thing in '06, and at the time we weren't really together.
(continued...)
Do I only blog when I'm having issues with the fellas in my life? Do I only blog to release from that shit? Maybe.
I'm in love right now...and it's causing me emotional and physical pain right now. I need to exercise this. NEED to.
I will be attempting to not contact him...until. When that "until" is, I don't know. He's on some "power trip" about the party who cares the least wins. If that's the game he's playing, then it's clear that it IS a game and I want no parts of it. I just need to let this feeling, this tie, this thing dissipate and move on.
I still have some of his stuff here. It's actually a good amount of stuff. He doesn't have a lot in the way of clothing, so a pair of jeans, a couple of work shirts, some undies and undershirts (I bought a few of those undershirts *sigh*) and socks (he has the ones I bought...and the mofo never even said thank you!) is a lot...
Wait. That helped. Yes, I bought them and put them in the drawer like nothing...but you know damn well what you brought here from your house and you know what you had. And those extra things...nope, you didn't have those. You never even intimated, subtly acknowledged them...just took it for granted.
back on track...I have some things at his place, a robe, travel kit toothbrush, phone charger, Carmex (a must no matter where I lay my head). It's nothing too major though my phone charger is a PITA to acquire again and my robe in my good, cold weather and travel robe (it has a hood).
This 'break-up' was honestly brewing and would have come anyway. I'd changed since he'd had a temper tantrum a few weeks ago. And every.week.it.was.something. That was old.
The problem is...the problem is with him. That is to say, one doesn't know there's a problem until suddenly he's exploding about some minor shit. THEN...he pulls out and enumerates about a buncha shit that either has nothing to do with you or was inconsequential at the time so he decided to save it up and make it something.
Oh...and is it my baggage that you equate chivalry/politeness with blows against your purported manhood? Is it my baggage that you feel some kind of way about opening a door for me because then, according to your experience, if you open/hold the door, you think that'll mean I expect you to pay my bills? WTF? That's called damage, man. Damage.
Shit, for me, that makes me feel like, "What the hell do I need you for?" I want to feel protected and feminine. And yes, wrong or right as it may be, my femininity is tied up in some of society's ancient mores of superficial social roles for men and women. If I'm carrying three bags and your hands are empty, it's not chauvanistic to think, expect, that you should help...hell, just offer. If I decline, then oh well. But it's the thought that goes forever, if you're not even asking? Nah. Hell, I'll get my carpentry, plumbing, electrician or auto mechanic skills on if I wanna, but then, I'd still like you to open my car or building door, hold out my chair and see me seated first.
Thank you for rubbing my feet though (even though your class counselor had to tell you to do it and it's a good thing!).
But then...I also have my need to "take care of"...it's a fuckin' weakness that can be my undoing...if I were to let it.
He had a procedure today. I was supposed to be with him for it and helping him after. We broke up on Sunday...or rather, I was un-girlfriended (via facebook, no less). I still would have taken him and seen him through it. Hell, maturity is...some things are beyond your personal shit.
Hell, I saw Robert through his knee surgery thing in '06, and at the time we weren't really together.
(continued...)
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
On Today's Menu...
Jan 26, 2007 9:44 pmMood: restless, 14 Views
Today, I'm in the mood for a relationship. Not just any ol' relationship ('cause that's easily accessible), but one designed by both parties to be fulfilling and pleasing. Something effortless but emotionful, loving, sensual, humorous, thought provoking, warm, inviting, even spiritual, passionate. The bond must be real. Intimate.What I had was done. Over. The intimacy was gone. Without that...without me looking into your eyes and wanting you...not just wanting you on a physical level, but wanting YOU...there's nothing.He'd asked me to be with him, but I couldn't bring myself to. I understand how people feel when they just go through the motions. I require that passion or I just can't get it going.That's something more than one man (including him) has said about me: I'm very passionate. If it's directed at you, in whatever manner, how very lucky that man is. If it's gone...it's quite sad.I need that to thrive. I could use a little right now.
Today, I'm in the mood for a relationship. Not just any ol' relationship ('cause that's easily accessible), but one designed by both parties to be fulfilling and pleasing. Something effortless but emotionful, loving, sensual, humorous, thought provoking, warm, inviting, even spiritual, passionate. The bond must be real. Intimate.What I had was done. Over. The intimacy was gone. Without that...without me looking into your eyes and wanting you...not just wanting you on a physical level, but wanting YOU...there's nothing.He'd asked me to be with him, but I couldn't bring myself to. I understand how people feel when they just go through the motions. I require that passion or I just can't get it going.That's something more than one man (including him) has said about me: I'm very passionate. If it's directed at you, in whatever manner, how very lucky that man is. If it's gone...it's quite sad.I need that to thrive. I could use a little right now.
I couldn't do it.
Jan 15, 2007 9:57 pmMood: melancholy, 34 Views
The absolute yearning of one human body for another particular one and its indifference to substitutes is one of life's major mysteries. --Iris Murdoch
I stole this quote from another person's blog.I responded to her use of the quote. However, I found myself in this position just this weekend.Simply because one presents himself before me does not mean that I can partake with the same vigor and enthusiasm...that I may have had before.I think, "His kiss does not compare..." or "This doesn't feel like..."A switch is thrown and I'm not on anymore. Lights out, good night, thanks for coming. Maybe he realizes. The coward in me hopes he does.The selfish bitch in me hopes he doesn't. Either way the situation takes care of itself: nothing changes or everything/nothing changes.I craved him. But not who was in front of me, who wanted me to want him. He wanted me to feel for him what he's building for me. I can't. Not now. I did. He told me then that he didn't want me. He did not want to give me what I needed of him.Fine. I put my feelings away and moved on. It was easy. Necessary. It was done. Now he returns and requests (out of the blue) that I resurrect what he killed. Easter's not here yet.What happened? Nothing. He kissed me, I withdrew. I couldn't respond like I do with him. I don't feel that welling passion. My mind drifts to a different encounter, different face, different sensations. I rip him apart (in my head) for being everything he's always been. It's not his fault. But it is.He's just a fling right now...but I like it.He's supposed to be something more, but I'm unsure
The absolute yearning of one human body for another particular one and its indifference to substitutes is one of life's major mysteries. --Iris Murdoch
I stole this quote from another person's blog.I responded to her use of the quote. However, I found myself in this position just this weekend.Simply because one presents himself before me does not mean that I can partake with the same vigor and enthusiasm...that I may have had before.I think, "His kiss does not compare..." or "This doesn't feel like..."A switch is thrown and I'm not on anymore. Lights out, good night, thanks for coming. Maybe he realizes. The coward in me hopes he does.The selfish bitch in me hopes he doesn't. Either way the situation takes care of itself: nothing changes or everything/nothing changes.I craved him. But not who was in front of me, who wanted me to want him. He wanted me to feel for him what he's building for me. I can't. Not now. I did. He told me then that he didn't want me. He did not want to give me what I needed of him.Fine. I put my feelings away and moved on. It was easy. Necessary. It was done. Now he returns and requests (out of the blue) that I resurrect what he killed. Easter's not here yet.What happened? Nothing. He kissed me, I withdrew. I couldn't respond like I do with him. I don't feel that welling passion. My mind drifts to a different encounter, different face, different sensations. I rip him apart (in my head) for being everything he's always been. It's not his fault. But it is.He's just a fling right now...but I like it.He's supposed to be something more, but I'm unsure
New Year, New Dick??
I haven't blogged in a while.
It's not that nothing's been happening but simply that I haven't wanted to put it out there like that. I realize that while my face is out here, (my tits as well), and that this is a completely public site (though many would be hard pressed to state, "Hey! Didn't I see you on ***** ****** ******" in mixed company), I won't make my entire life public.
However, there are, of course, those juicy little tidbits which can be mentioned without great recourse. This may be one of those times. Maybe, because I don't know where this little rendevous is going. Maybe, because I'm not really taking it seriously. Maybe, because I have never actually entertained, let alone gotten physical with, someone younger than myself. Maybe, for some other factors.Right now, though, we'll go as far as it goes, even if tomorrow is the last time.
There's nothing too racy or out there (yet)...just a little something that's making me say, "Oooooh." And, well shit, that's the most important thing if nothing else.He's just a couple of years younger, so nothing too drastic. He's a tradesman and has been in his line of work for at least 8 years. We met because he was doing some work for me. Now being the nosey sort that I am, I was present while the work was being done. I also contributed my two cents while he was working. He's very personable, so we took to each other and did a little lightweight flirting. As the day wore on, he continued working, our flirting grew outright. As I am who I am and the way I am, I thought nothing of it. When around someone I find attractive, I seem to be in a constant state of harmless flirt.
As work was concluding, we'd gotten past the formalities and become comfortable flirting...I still gave it no thought. He'd leave and that would be that. Instead, he gave me his number. I returned mine.We talk on the phone sometime.
BFD.HEAVY PETTING
Turns out he has to return to tweak something. He does. After he's done, he asks to stay to talk. He does; we talk. We've got fire jumping from one and other. It's palpable and it's lighthearted and fun. I let him touch me (just my hand and arm) and he knows how to modulate his touch: very sensual, non offensive. That's an art. It's inviting. It's arousing.I touch him and I see his dick rise through his trousers. He covers it modestly and discreetly {points for that}. I'm hot and bothered, but I can disguise that more than he can. We continue talking.
I want him...I want to at least kiss him, so I put myself closer to him. The conversation turns only slightly sexual and we use innuendo {more points: I love a bit of sex talk, but I've got to be feelin' you first, otherwise I'm turned off!}Given his position now, he has the opportunity to kiss my neck...and he does, ever so softly and gently. The kinda thing that makes my pussy spasm and flush with warmth.
So I had to turn to kiss him. That was some of the best kissing I've had in a while. Urgent, but sensual. Can I use the word 'succulent' in regard to kissing?? 'Cause it was. HOT! SEX!! on a PLATTER!!I wanted to fuck him. I was trying to be restrained though. You know, New Year and all!!He took off my bra and gave his complete attention to my nipples. My gawd! So to divert his attention, I began, in earnest, to carress his dick. I sprang it loose from his straining boxers and trousers and into my hand. He's not enormous, but enough to work with.
Between my breasts I placed him and began to 'titty-fuck' him. He almost lost his mind.
So he pulled me back up to kiss him. He worked his way into my sweat pants and pants to my wetness. He dipped a finger, then two, into me and curved them. It was all I could do not to become a blithering idiot with my orgasm. The insistent, yet gently firm probing fingers, his mouth on my neck and breath next to my ear and his other hand on my back holding me to him...I wanted to make him come. I wriggled away from him and down to his dick agan. I watched his face when I took it in my mouth. His eyes widened with delightful surprise and that look of lust that had been in his eyes all evening grew brighter than I'd seen previously. I know what I'm doing with a dick, so it didn't take long before he began to gasp and tense.
I love to hear a man say he's going to cum...and he did cum all over my hands, his pants, a little in my hair.
Realizing what time it was, how long he'd been here and that we both had to work in the morning (and we'd both likely sleep very well), I bid him adeiu...with promises of calls and to do it again.
We did do it again. Some it it...today; this morning. Still didn't fuck him though: the bitch with the red suitcase is visiting. And that was okay. Hell, I'm having fun just "making out" like in the good old days. And it builds anticipation like nothing else.
It's not that nothing's been happening but simply that I haven't wanted to put it out there like that. I realize that while my face is out here, (my tits as well), and that this is a completely public site (though many would be hard pressed to state, "Hey! Didn't I see you on ***** ****** ******" in mixed company), I won't make my entire life public.
However, there are, of course, those juicy little tidbits which can be mentioned without great recourse. This may be one of those times. Maybe, because I don't know where this little rendevous is going. Maybe, because I'm not really taking it seriously. Maybe, because I have never actually entertained, let alone gotten physical with, someone younger than myself. Maybe, for some other factors.Right now, though, we'll go as far as it goes, even if tomorrow is the last time.
There's nothing too racy or out there (yet)...just a little something that's making me say, "Oooooh." And, well shit, that's the most important thing if nothing else.He's just a couple of years younger, so nothing too drastic. He's a tradesman and has been in his line of work for at least 8 years. We met because he was doing some work for me. Now being the nosey sort that I am, I was present while the work was being done. I also contributed my two cents while he was working. He's very personable, so we took to each other and did a little lightweight flirting. As the day wore on, he continued working, our flirting grew outright. As I am who I am and the way I am, I thought nothing of it. When around someone I find attractive, I seem to be in a constant state of harmless flirt.
As work was concluding, we'd gotten past the formalities and become comfortable flirting...I still gave it no thought. He'd leave and that would be that. Instead, he gave me his number. I returned mine.We talk on the phone sometime.
BFD.HEAVY PETTING
Turns out he has to return to tweak something. He does. After he's done, he asks to stay to talk. He does; we talk. We've got fire jumping from one and other. It's palpable and it's lighthearted and fun. I let him touch me (just my hand and arm) and he knows how to modulate his touch: very sensual, non offensive. That's an art. It's inviting. It's arousing.I touch him and I see his dick rise through his trousers. He covers it modestly and discreetly {points for that}. I'm hot and bothered, but I can disguise that more than he can. We continue talking.
I want him...I want to at least kiss him, so I put myself closer to him. The conversation turns only slightly sexual and we use innuendo {more points: I love a bit of sex talk, but I've got to be feelin' you first, otherwise I'm turned off!}Given his position now, he has the opportunity to kiss my neck...and he does, ever so softly and gently. The kinda thing that makes my pussy spasm and flush with warmth.
So I had to turn to kiss him. That was some of the best kissing I've had in a while. Urgent, but sensual. Can I use the word 'succulent' in regard to kissing?? 'Cause it was. HOT! SEX!! on a PLATTER!!I wanted to fuck him. I was trying to be restrained though. You know, New Year and all!!He took off my bra and gave his complete attention to my nipples. My gawd! So to divert his attention, I began, in earnest, to carress his dick. I sprang it loose from his straining boxers and trousers and into my hand. He's not enormous, but enough to work with.
Between my breasts I placed him and began to 'titty-fuck' him. He almost lost his mind.
So he pulled me back up to kiss him. He worked his way into my sweat pants and pants to my wetness. He dipped a finger, then two, into me and curved them. It was all I could do not to become a blithering idiot with my orgasm. The insistent, yet gently firm probing fingers, his mouth on my neck and breath next to my ear and his other hand on my back holding me to him...I wanted to make him come. I wriggled away from him and down to his dick agan. I watched his face when I took it in my mouth. His eyes widened with delightful surprise and that look of lust that had been in his eyes all evening grew brighter than I'd seen previously. I know what I'm doing with a dick, so it didn't take long before he began to gasp and tense.
I love to hear a man say he's going to cum...and he did cum all over my hands, his pants, a little in my hair.
Realizing what time it was, how long he'd been here and that we both had to work in the morning (and we'd both likely sleep very well), I bid him adeiu...with promises of calls and to do it again.
We did do it again. Some it it...today; this morning. Still didn't fuck him though: the bitch with the red suitcase is visiting. And that was okay. Hell, I'm having fun just "making out" like in the good old days. And it builds anticipation like nothing else.
Those Random Snippets Again...
Nov 27, 2006 10:29 pmMood: cynical, 73 Views
oh gawd, he could get FUCKED!!
i can't put a finger on what it is...but damn!!! Out of state, be damned. Don't let me make my way there, or vice versa. All bets are off and I'm on it!!Is this what it feels like to have a grown crush?
I was tired, but I needed that rest. Don't ya know, don't ya know: why is it when you want to, need to just SLEEP, everybody and anybody is calling?
Him, HIM, him, too! It's nice to be remembered, but I had a date with a pillow.
He allows me to treat him so poorly. I think that's why I continue to mess with him. Either he's a glutton for punishment, or he doesn't think about it. But he must, because he's asked me why. I was honest. He said he'll let me dictate contact. I didn't want contact, so I didn't reinitiate it after the call.
That's not rude...that's exactly what we said.
I'm friendly. I need a guy buddy. Not necessarily one to fuck either. I've got that. Won't rule it out, but don't count on getting near the cookies: it might not happen. I need a buddy to hit the movies with, see some shows, concerts...chill stuff. We can fuck other people, and just come together to do the friend and hangout things.
Maybe, if the chemistry's right, we could lay on each other. No strings, no guarantees or promises about the future.I'm busy and I might not always want to see you.But if you can make me smile incessantly, laugh, and be comfortable, you're mint like flint.
If this is you, apply within.
An Ode to the THIGHS
(moving my blogs from another site)
Nov 19, 2006 12:18 pmMood: excited, 82 Views
I have a lust for men. I have a similar attraction for women. I think that's just an admiration, though. I've never taken it there with a woman.
Yet? Even if I did, might, could, my overwhelming draw is and will always be to men.
Why? Everything. Their scent: the natural scent that you smell even through all the cologne. Their voices: I'm a sucker for a deep voice and I get all worked up over the natural bass in a man's voice.
Their bodies: they were made to fit me.
This leads me to the thighs. I generally like a certain build of guy, though I have dated all kinds from short and "petite" to tall and skinny or tall and fat. The overriding trend is that most of them had a "football players" body. At least that's what it's described as by those folks who are supposed to be authorities on categorizing everything.
I like a man who's broad shouldered, broad chest which still tapers into narrower but squarish hips. This leads me to the thighs. Usually men with this build tend to have thick, muscular thighs.
It doesn't matter to me whether the muscles are ripped like a body builder or just there, under the surface, providing that strong, powerful understructure. I love the feel of the hamstrings under my fingertips when I am gripping the back of his thighs when he's in my mouth. The power that the thighs generate when he's coming at me, entering me in whatever position, be it just him bracing himself or actively fucking me.
Let's not forget the look of a pair of strong, muscular thighs striding across a room: the way they frame the package. The way the suppleness can contrast with his hard-on when he's ready for me. I could even go so far as the mention the tingle I get when watching a nice pair of thighs shower: the way the water glides over the skin, drops clinging to the light covering of hair now slicked down by the water.
The thighs...second only to a charming, bright smile. But I can't grip a smile can I?
Nov 19, 2006 12:18 pmMood: excited, 82 Views
I have a lust for men. I have a similar attraction for women. I think that's just an admiration, though. I've never taken it there with a woman.
Yet? Even if I did, might, could, my overwhelming draw is and will always be to men.
Why? Everything. Their scent: the natural scent that you smell even through all the cologne. Their voices: I'm a sucker for a deep voice and I get all worked up over the natural bass in a man's voice.
Their bodies: they were made to fit me.
This leads me to the thighs. I generally like a certain build of guy, though I have dated all kinds from short and "petite" to tall and skinny or tall and fat. The overriding trend is that most of them had a "football players" body. At least that's what it's described as by those folks who are supposed to be authorities on categorizing everything.
I like a man who's broad shouldered, broad chest which still tapers into narrower but squarish hips. This leads me to the thighs. Usually men with this build tend to have thick, muscular thighs.
It doesn't matter to me whether the muscles are ripped like a body builder or just there, under the surface, providing that strong, powerful understructure. I love the feel of the hamstrings under my fingertips when I am gripping the back of his thighs when he's in my mouth. The power that the thighs generate when he's coming at me, entering me in whatever position, be it just him bracing himself or actively fucking me.
Let's not forget the look of a pair of strong, muscular thighs striding across a room: the way they frame the package. The way the suppleness can contrast with his hard-on when he's ready for me. I could even go so far as the mention the tingle I get when watching a nice pair of thighs shower: the way the water glides over the skin, drops clinging to the light covering of hair now slicked down by the water.
The thighs...second only to a charming, bright smile. But I can't grip a smile can I?
Monday, October 23, 2006
(an excerpt from a song soon to be released by a major, known, singing group)
Baby...I just wanna be all boo'd up with you...
Whereever we are,
I just wanna be
all boo'd up with you...
the attention that you show me now
is enough to hold me down
whenever you're not around...
baby
I just wanna, I just wanna be
all boo'd up with you
yeah...
_____________
Do you have your boo for the winter?
Cold weather is coming and you need to be fully stocked in the mate department for the next few months.
First, the holidays. Gotta have that person to watch the ball games, parades, and winter specials with. Gotta have that person who'll do the dishes after Thanksgiving for you.
The trading of sentimental trinkets on Christmas (or Channukah or Kwanzaa) and the tender gazes of love and lust over glasses of spiked nog.
Then there's the celebrated kiss when the old year gives way to the New Year.
You got your boo?
Your boo's gotta be able to hang for at least the coldest months of the coming seasons. They've gotta be someone you can stand at least until the groundhog emerges. You've got to be able to cope with their voice, their scents, their habits. Being able to spend extended periods of time with them in confined spaces is a plus. You should be able to blend with your boo: sense of humor, outlook on world events, activity planning. Even if you don't match perfectly, please make sure you and your winter boo don't clash too much. If you clash too much and too often, one person will want to leave the other and you can't be a boo without having a co-boo.
Now's the time to find your boo!!
This month is almost over and time is running short.
Remember, your winter boo does not have to become a year round boo. It's common for boos to become less interactive as the weather warms. Although, having spent all the winter with each other, some winter boos do turn into lasting boos. Nothing wrong with that either.
Oh, and boo sex! It can be some of the best there is. Coming in from the cold rain or snow, getting warm together and then making it HOT!!... it's the stuff of legend and memories. What else have you got to do during the winter besides thinking of and finding new ways to make your boo cum?
sigh.
I'm single and looking to get boo'd up.
Baby...I just wanna be all boo'd up with you...
Whereever we are,
I just wanna be
all boo'd up with you...
the attention that you show me now
is enough to hold me down
whenever you're not around...
baby
I just wanna, I just wanna be
all boo'd up with you
yeah...
_____________
Do you have your boo for the winter?
Cold weather is coming and you need to be fully stocked in the mate department for the next few months.
First, the holidays. Gotta have that person to watch the ball games, parades, and winter specials with. Gotta have that person who'll do the dishes after Thanksgiving for you.
The trading of sentimental trinkets on Christmas (or Channukah or Kwanzaa) and the tender gazes of love and lust over glasses of spiked nog.
Then there's the celebrated kiss when the old year gives way to the New Year.
You got your boo?
Your boo's gotta be able to hang for at least the coldest months of the coming seasons. They've gotta be someone you can stand at least until the groundhog emerges. You've got to be able to cope with their voice, their scents, their habits. Being able to spend extended periods of time with them in confined spaces is a plus. You should be able to blend with your boo: sense of humor, outlook on world events, activity planning. Even if you don't match perfectly, please make sure you and your winter boo don't clash too much. If you clash too much and too often, one person will want to leave the other and you can't be a boo without having a co-boo.
Now's the time to find your boo!!
This month is almost over and time is running short.
Remember, your winter boo does not have to become a year round boo. It's common for boos to become less interactive as the weather warms. Although, having spent all the winter with each other, some winter boos do turn into lasting boos. Nothing wrong with that either.
Oh, and boo sex! It can be some of the best there is. Coming in from the cold rain or snow, getting warm together and then making it HOT!!... it's the stuff of legend and memories. What else have you got to do during the winter besides thinking of and finding new ways to make your boo cum?
sigh.
I'm single and looking to get boo'd up.
Sunday, October 01, 2006
Wow....I feel so lost.
and so free.
All at the same time.
I haven't diary-ed or blogged or released in written form in some time.
I've got all this S.H.I.T. bottled up. Here's one thing. Fifty-leben dozen more.
Time to regain my even keel.
___________________
I'm with R. Right now R is not floating my boat. R's babymomma moved in with him. Why? She's the equivalent of a deadbeat: professional slacker who doesn't provide for the kid. R handles that.
So why not have the KID move in?...Not them both. She's grown. She needs to learn to fend for self. Others do. The old adage, "You don't eat if you don't work," applies here: she needs to learn it.
I'm not jealous. Not afraid they'll rekindle. Shit, if they do, they do. I don't think it's likely though. Not deluding myself, but I feel pretty secure in that. However, the willingness to be a receptacle for other's discarded mess (she was dumped by her fiance) that he exhibits bothers me. Sigh.
And so...As I'm prone to do when I'm feeling dejected and despondent, I turn elsewhere looking for a temporary boat-float. Found one. Kinda. It's not even that serious though. It does, however, give me something to think about other than R. That's just it though: I'm thinking about it too damned much.
Met online (what's new? seems like I only meet flakes and deadasses in person). I was busy being elated about R a few weeks ago, so we didn't really connect until recently. Connect? Did we. Could be onesided, but I felt a *click* that I'm missing right now. I've been missing it for a while, apparently. Funny what introspection reveals.
It felt good to feel "felt", understood, affirmed. Laughing at common ironic views on things, similar sentiments. Damn. Cool.
I needed some simple conversation and listening and I got that. I needed some common appreciation of subjects and I got that. Then I wanted attentive, intuitive sensuality combined with sexuality, verbalized desire, fervor, heat. Boy did I get that.
I feel like a fuckin' crack addict.
He probably didn't mean to, but this man blew me the fuck away. Don't get me wrong, I'm not downing his skills, 'cause he gots S.K.I.L.L.S.!! but it was more what I was needing that made it so spectacular. He filled that need and now I'm fiending like, "Please sir: I want some more!"
I think I simply want escape in that feeling...and I want to revisit it over and over and over. Some people take long baths to wash away the b.s. of life; I'm using the high I got that night.
It's only that particular high that I crave at this moment.
Sad to say...don't think I've ever done this before: while I was with R the other day I was fantasizing about [we'll call him] Z. I've never before had an issue with R's fucking/lovemaking/sexing. I felt so unabashedly entitled to have this other man's face and lips and tongue and hands and dick and body and voice in my thoughts. I couldn't push the thoughts away hard as I tried.
I went to sleep with this man on my mind and awoke fearing I'd given voice to my thoughts and fantasy. He was not a fantasy though: he is a reality that I've experienced. I want and need more of it.
Fickle as I am though, this craving, this desire, the yearning may vanish as quickly as it began. It could all be an exaggeration of something nice, but less than what I've mocked it up to in my head. NAW! I was there and it was what it was.
I don't feel guilty about cheating. I do feel, know, that something is missing. How to fix that is the bigger problem.
Of course, my mind changes direction as the fish in my astrological indicator, so tomorrow may bring another sun.
Big sigh.
and so free.
All at the same time.
I haven't diary-ed or blogged or released in written form in some time.
I've got all this S.H.I.T. bottled up. Here's one thing. Fifty-leben dozen more.
Time to regain my even keel.
___________________
I'm with R. Right now R is not floating my boat. R's babymomma moved in with him. Why? She's the equivalent of a deadbeat: professional slacker who doesn't provide for the kid. R handles that.
So why not have the KID move in?...Not them both. She's grown. She needs to learn to fend for self. Others do. The old adage, "You don't eat if you don't work," applies here: she needs to learn it.
I'm not jealous. Not afraid they'll rekindle. Shit, if they do, they do. I don't think it's likely though. Not deluding myself, but I feel pretty secure in that. However, the willingness to be a receptacle for other's discarded mess (she was dumped by her fiance) that he exhibits bothers me. Sigh.
And so...As I'm prone to do when I'm feeling dejected and despondent, I turn elsewhere looking for a temporary boat-float. Found one. Kinda. It's not even that serious though. It does, however, give me something to think about other than R. That's just it though: I'm thinking about it too damned much.
Met online (what's new? seems like I only meet flakes and deadasses in person). I was busy being elated about R a few weeks ago, so we didn't really connect until recently. Connect? Did we. Could be onesided, but I felt a *click* that I'm missing right now. I've been missing it for a while, apparently. Funny what introspection reveals.
It felt good to feel "felt", understood, affirmed. Laughing at common ironic views on things, similar sentiments. Damn. Cool.
I needed some simple conversation and listening and I got that. I needed some common appreciation of subjects and I got that. Then I wanted attentive, intuitive sensuality combined with sexuality, verbalized desire, fervor, heat. Boy did I get that.
I feel like a fuckin' crack addict.
He probably didn't mean to, but this man blew me the fuck away. Don't get me wrong, I'm not downing his skills, 'cause he gots S.K.I.L.L.S.!! but it was more what I was needing that made it so spectacular. He filled that need and now I'm fiending like, "Please sir: I want some more!"
I think I simply want escape in that feeling...and I want to revisit it over and over and over. Some people take long baths to wash away the b.s. of life; I'm using the high I got that night.
It's only that particular high that I crave at this moment.
Sad to say...don't think I've ever done this before: while I was with R the other day I was fantasizing about [we'll call him] Z. I've never before had an issue with R's fucking/lovemaking/sexing. I felt so unabashedly entitled to have this other man's face and lips and tongue and hands and dick and body and voice in my thoughts. I couldn't push the thoughts away hard as I tried.
I went to sleep with this man on my mind and awoke fearing I'd given voice to my thoughts and fantasy. He was not a fantasy though: he is a reality that I've experienced. I want and need more of it.
Fickle as I am though, this craving, this desire, the yearning may vanish as quickly as it began. It could all be an exaggeration of something nice, but less than what I've mocked it up to in my head. NAW! I was there and it was what it was.
I don't feel guilty about cheating. I do feel, know, that something is missing. How to fix that is the bigger problem.
Of course, my mind changes direction as the fish in my astrological indicator, so tomorrow may bring another sun.
Big sigh.
Friday, January 13, 2006
Fuckin' in a parking lot!!
Ahhh...vehicular sex...
Haven't done that in a long while. Extra-vehicular sex? Haven't done that in, um, 11 or 12 years.
Why do it, you ask?? Because it's fun. I'm a to-the-soul exhibitionist (to an extent) and there's nothing like the thrill of getting caught/someone seeing you like fuckin' outdoors. Well, there is the fleeting thought of "Is this how hookers do it?" or "I surely hope the police don't roll up right now!" But those thoughts are interspersed between the "uuuuhhhgg!" and the "ooooooooohhhh" and the 'splacking' sound of him smacking my ass---so I don't focus too long on the negatives.
Who was the lucky fellow?? A guy I'd met and been flirting around with for a while. There was SOOOO much sexual tension between us that just had to be eliminated. And I just couldn't wait any longer. Besides, I never miss the opportunity to completely fluster someone...this was one of those occasions. I ALWAYS carry condoms with me so I was prepared. He had been working me over on the nipple tip so I was wet and rarin' to go. Then he put his hand in my crotch and it was all I could do to not cum before I got the chance to fuck him.
After a few internal debates and second thoughts, I reached into my purse and got the condom. I opened it, rolled it on him and turned around to drop my pants. Yes. Pants. Not even a skirt to make this simple. He, who'd been a bit skeptical, now helped me disrobe my bottom half, bend me over and mount me. I'm actually glad he's not as tall as those I usually date: I wore flat shoes and still had to toot my ass up in the air for the proper angle. Had he been taller, I'd have been tossed over onto my head.
Commence fucking we did. Like two half crazed animals in heat. He's a loud feller too! Because of my doubled over position, I was concealed between our two vehicles. However, he was fully visible to be seen in the throes of something breathtaking - with his shirt tail gripped between his teeth. Having looked back at him and seeing his expression, I was fully convinced that my goal of flustering was done.
And when he came and let loose a hearty groan, I surely knew.
Will I make vehicular and extra-vehicular/wildlife sex a regular thing?? Nah... I'm not homeless and I don't live with my momma, and I'm not a cheap date. But! for that extra spice and to reminisce and re-enact....oh YEAH!!
Haven't done that in a long while. Extra-vehicular sex? Haven't done that in, um, 11 or 12 years.
Why do it, you ask?? Because it's fun. I'm a to-the-soul exhibitionist (to an extent) and there's nothing like the thrill of getting caught/someone seeing you like fuckin' outdoors. Well, there is the fleeting thought of "Is this how hookers do it?" or "I surely hope the police don't roll up right now!" But those thoughts are interspersed between the "uuuuhhhgg!" and the "ooooooooohhhh" and the 'splacking' sound of him smacking my ass---so I don't focus too long on the negatives.
Who was the lucky fellow?? A guy I'd met and been flirting around with for a while. There was SOOOO much sexual tension between us that just had to be eliminated. And I just couldn't wait any longer. Besides, I never miss the opportunity to completely fluster someone...this was one of those occasions. I ALWAYS carry condoms with me so I was prepared. He had been working me over on the nipple tip so I was wet and rarin' to go. Then he put his hand in my crotch and it was all I could do to not cum before I got the chance to fuck him.
After a few internal debates and second thoughts, I reached into my purse and got the condom. I opened it, rolled it on him and turned around to drop my pants. Yes. Pants. Not even a skirt to make this simple. He, who'd been a bit skeptical, now helped me disrobe my bottom half, bend me over and mount me. I'm actually glad he's not as tall as those I usually date: I wore flat shoes and still had to toot my ass up in the air for the proper angle. Had he been taller, I'd have been tossed over onto my head.
Commence fucking we did. Like two half crazed animals in heat. He's a loud feller too! Because of my doubled over position, I was concealed between our two vehicles. However, he was fully visible to be seen in the throes of something breathtaking - with his shirt tail gripped between his teeth. Having looked back at him and seeing his expression, I was fully convinced that my goal of flustering was done.
And when he came and let loose a hearty groan, I surely knew.
Will I make vehicular and extra-vehicular/wildlife sex a regular thing?? Nah... I'm not homeless and I don't live with my momma, and I'm not a cheap date. But! for that extra spice and to reminisce and re-enact....oh YEAH!!
Sunday, June 05, 2005
GAME OVER.
Suicide is painless?? No...probably not.
but it is NOT an option once you have children. At least that's what they say. And that's why I'm still here. Funny though, I'm depressed because of the disposition of one of my children.
That's okay though: you come into this world alone and you leave (usually) alone. So I'll be leaving HER alone.
Who is HER?? Mother. That's how she will be referred to from now on, if there's reference at all. Try to drive a wedge and do it your way?? I told them you would do this, and they didn't believe me. That's okay, you made your play: game over.
GAME OVER. I'm grown and I don't have to deal with the bullshit. GAME OVER. Independent since 1995. Funny though...now you wanna act like you were always around...like I couldn't have done it without you. But I IDID do it without you. I couldn't have made it through without D.G.
And you want to talk about things I "borrowed" and didn't return. How the fuck you gonna say I "borrowed" the bike pump and didn't return it. I've moved 4 times with it in my possession...the first time was when I was moving from your house. Duh! And that's not the first time you've made that comment about borrowing shit.
Okay: tit for tat?? You want it; got it. You borrowed money off my Discover card and didn't put it all back, leaving BIG balances because you didn't have the money to pay the rent. Same with Visa Gold. You paid for your wedding dress and acoutrement with my Robinsons-May card...never fully paid that back (and that balance was ZERO when you used it!!) My American Express? You paid it (over time) but got it cancelled because you charged what you couldn't afford to pay off in full. I think you're into me for a good $7000, if you wanna tit for tat. And you'll say that I owe you $750 from moving into this house. True. But recently when going through my old check registers I see checks with your name on them labeled "help". Hmmm...I think we're even on the $750.
That's okay though because GAME OVER. I've done fine on my own. You get an attitude when you can't get in my business as you like to be. Well, I'm not one of your sad sorry sack friends who you gripe about to me....but smile at and visit with. You told me before that I hurt your feelings about some bullshit a while back. Oh well. That was how I really felt, and as I crest and cross over 30, I have no desire to stifle my true feelings. That was the past, for the birds. You liked to say how I was just like my father in that respect. The tradition of the genes continues.
I get more grown everyday, and have learned to deal with and speak the truth. Whatever that may be. I will not be like you and make it more palatable to myself by twisting it. I'll deal with this situation, but when it is done, GAME OVER. Have your fun because it's all over.
but it is NOT an option once you have children. At least that's what they say. And that's why I'm still here. Funny though, I'm depressed because of the disposition of one of my children.
That's okay though: you come into this world alone and you leave (usually) alone. So I'll be leaving HER alone.
Who is HER?? Mother. That's how she will be referred to from now on, if there's reference at all. Try to drive a wedge and do it your way?? I told them you would do this, and they didn't believe me. That's okay, you made your play: game over.
GAME OVER. I'm grown and I don't have to deal with the bullshit. GAME OVER. Independent since 1995. Funny though...now you wanna act like you were always around...like I couldn't have done it without you. But I IDID do it without you. I couldn't have made it through without D.G.
And you want to talk about things I "borrowed" and didn't return. How the fuck you gonna say I "borrowed" the bike pump and didn't return it. I've moved 4 times with it in my possession...the first time was when I was moving from your house. Duh! And that's not the first time you've made that comment about borrowing shit.
Okay: tit for tat?? You want it; got it. You borrowed money off my Discover card and didn't put it all back, leaving BIG balances because you didn't have the money to pay the rent. Same with Visa Gold. You paid for your wedding dress and acoutrement with my Robinsons-May card...never fully paid that back (and that balance was ZERO when you used it!!) My American Express? You paid it (over time) but got it cancelled because you charged what you couldn't afford to pay off in full. I think you're into me for a good $7000, if you wanna tit for tat. And you'll say that I owe you $750 from moving into this house. True. But recently when going through my old check registers I see checks with your name on them labeled "help". Hmmm...I think we're even on the $750.
That's okay though because GAME OVER. I've done fine on my own. You get an attitude when you can't get in my business as you like to be. Well, I'm not one of your sad sorry sack friends who you gripe about to me....but smile at and visit with. You told me before that I hurt your feelings about some bullshit a while back. Oh well. That was how I really felt, and as I crest and cross over 30, I have no desire to stifle my true feelings. That was the past, for the birds. You liked to say how I was just like my father in that respect. The tradition of the genes continues.
I get more grown everyday, and have learned to deal with and speak the truth. Whatever that may be. I will not be like you and make it more palatable to myself by twisting it. I'll deal with this situation, but when it is done, GAME OVER. Have your fun because it's all over.
Monday, May 02, 2005
Derelict Daughter??
I haven't made any reservations or plans for my mother's Mother's Day "event".
I'm an only child.
I'm going to admit it: I'm a little confused.
I AM A MOTHER, twice over, to my little ones. So MY Mother's Day plans have revolved around what I'm going to do with my little ones. Not that my mom is not involved, or appreciated, but I have omitted her as my focus.
Heck....Since no one has access to my home to do it...I'm hoping BigSon can make me some boiled eggs and toast for breakfast. Maybe even some Hot Dogs (he can make some mean kosher franks) Anyway, I want to have a day about ME, since I'm worn out and I feel I deserve some recognition.
I'm buying myself some tix to see Mint Condition and maybe even Rahsaan Patterson at a couple of venues this month. I might even splurge and get tix to Kenny Lattimore too! It's all about me.
I saw a beautiful gift on TV which I'd ordered...and had it not been broken when it arrived, I'd have had it engraved with a thoughtful phrase and the kids give it to her for Mother's Day. I had to send it back though...and I haven't thought about it since.
I will have the kids do something for her in recognition of her grandmothership...but I'm the MOMMY right now. I guess this post is driven because there are times when I feel like she's competing for MOMMY-DOM with my own kids. I had to set her straight recently about coming into MY house and setting "rules" for when my BigSon was supposed to do 'A-B-C'. I had to tell her that that was my domain and the rules that I've already set are what he follows.
Maybe I'm just being Vain and Self-Centered??
We had a good talk on the phone yesterday, but I do tire of talking to her sometimes, especially if the conversation is not directed toward some particular topic. I love her, but once we've exhausted the topic, we can hang up. Besides, not prolonging B.S. conversing will keep it fresh for next time.
Eh...maybe I'm hormonal. Or maybe, it's like I've been saying all along: My tolerance for B.S. is growing shorter by the year. I do know there are two people that I've met in the last 8 years that I can vibe with on the level that I vibe with only 1 other person, T & F. Both of those chicks live outta state though. F was only here temporarily on an assignment and T moved a couple of years after we got out of college. She's coming for the summer, a couple of weeks.
I'll be very happy.
For now, I guess I'm just remiss or something. Oh well. At least I know it.
I'm an only child.
I'm going to admit it: I'm a little confused.
I AM A MOTHER, twice over, to my little ones. So MY Mother's Day plans have revolved around what I'm going to do with my little ones. Not that my mom is not involved, or appreciated, but I have omitted her as my focus.
Heck....Since no one has access to my home to do it...I'm hoping BigSon can make me some boiled eggs and toast for breakfast. Maybe even some Hot Dogs (he can make some mean kosher franks) Anyway, I want to have a day about ME, since I'm worn out and I feel I deserve some recognition.
I'm buying myself some tix to see Mint Condition and maybe even Rahsaan Patterson at a couple of venues this month. I might even splurge and get tix to Kenny Lattimore too! It's all about me.
I saw a beautiful gift on TV which I'd ordered...and had it not been broken when it arrived, I'd have had it engraved with a thoughtful phrase and the kids give it to her for Mother's Day. I had to send it back though...and I haven't thought about it since.
I will have the kids do something for her in recognition of her grandmothership...but I'm the MOMMY right now. I guess this post is driven because there are times when I feel like she's competing for MOMMY-DOM with my own kids. I had to set her straight recently about coming into MY house and setting "rules" for when my BigSon was supposed to do 'A-B-C'. I had to tell her that that was my domain and the rules that I've already set are what he follows.
Maybe I'm just being Vain and Self-Centered??
We had a good talk on the phone yesterday, but I do tire of talking to her sometimes, especially if the conversation is not directed toward some particular topic. I love her, but once we've exhausted the topic, we can hang up. Besides, not prolonging B.S. conversing will keep it fresh for next time.
Eh...maybe I'm hormonal. Or maybe, it's like I've been saying all along: My tolerance for B.S. is growing shorter by the year. I do know there are two people that I've met in the last 8 years that I can vibe with on the level that I vibe with only 1 other person, T & F. Both of those chicks live outta state though. F was only here temporarily on an assignment and T moved a couple of years after we got out of college. She's coming for the summer, a couple of weeks.
I'll be very happy.
For now, I guess I'm just remiss or something. Oh well. At least I know it.
Saturday, April 23, 2005
Irony Is....
the white woman standing in front of me with the last name "Coon". She looked like an old southern broad who would have used that name in it's racist sense, or have known someone who did.
Sterotype?? So.
The clerk at the checkout line put her last name to my first name when giving me my forms. When I called his attention to it, he became flustered and went out of his way to prove to me that it was an 'honest' mistake.
Yeah.
Sterotype?? So.
The clerk at the checkout line put her last name to my first name when giving me my forms. When I called his attention to it, he became flustered and went out of his way to prove to me that it was an 'honest' mistake.
Yeah.
Saturday, April 02, 2005
That's just nassssstay!!!
Let me first start by saying that I don't care if a dude/chick wants to be gay. I might have some gay tendencies myself. I can appreciate the hell out of a nice looking chick. I might be given to staring at certain body parts...even her face. But that might make me covetous, not gay. Don't matter. I've appreciated a woman, but I've never taken it to that level: a sexual level. Heck, I even dig SOME woman/woman porn, but who doesn't.
Whatever. If one day I become gay, I will most def be on the up and up and OUT about it.
Which brings me to this---->
WHY, oh why oh why??? did my girl/my best friend/my kids' Godmother tell me what she heard about my son's sperm donor??
And this is how it went down. {fuck punctuation and proper sentence/paragraph structure...I'm telling a story: don't edit, read.}
My girl, call her E...her husband bowls at the same spot the sperm donor does. It goes back a while and I don't feel like typing the whole story out right now, but that mufucker is on the DL, but not really. He's on the DL because he hasn't come out, but I guess he's coming more and more out of the closet.
Here's a smidge back story:
Long after we broke up, I still had some old shit on my 'puter that he'd put there. He had the stuff password protected. So I'd called him one day when he was acting like an adult and asked him for the password. He gave me two. Tried one, didn't work; the other did. So I deleted the stuff off my puter.
I got curious and nosey and felt like doing it...so I typed up his email addy, just to see if it would work. It did. Why were my suspicions 'bout dat mufucka confirmed?? This nigga had all kinds of correspondence from women (random chicks he'd meet and fuck), but I already knew he was unfaithful...that's one of many reasons we broke up. But not just women, MEN TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!
AND, it get's better. That day, he hadn't checked his email for a few days...so I scroll down the list of legit stuff, junk, and ass mails...and see a birthday notice from a GAY site. I click that mufucka. It's telling him happy birthday...and reminds him of his password and user name. I go to the site...log in...and check his profile: why is this nigga's name "Bigdicklover"???? Any of yall know him??
It goes on to list out his vital stats...so the question of "it's a mistake" is a nogo. And it lists what he's looking for in a man, one qual. is "...a big dick to suck and get fucked by..." I'm so shocked. and yet I'm rollin' on da mufuckin' flo' at the same time. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO....
and I'm glad that when I ended that relationship, I pronto had myself tested for everything under the mufuckin sinful sun...and I came up NEGATIVE on all.
Now see, the funny thing is that when we broke up, I thought about posting the naked pics I took of him on a gay site. Why? Because in those pics, that nigga looked fruitier than a box of loops, and there was nothing erotic or arousing (for me) in them. It was as if I was a professional photog that he was posing for...for homoerotic literature. I couldn't get wet off those pics if I was hip deep in the Pacific Ocean. Alas, I didn't have to send them in: the nigga sought out gay sites for himself.
Of course, E, being my girl...I told her all about my discoveryl. And I lamented that DAMN, I even had a child with this fucka.
Now...back to today..and the convo my girl tells me about. Sperm donor's phone is d/c. This has happened many times due to his triflingness...but he's gotten it reconnected. Now, however, it's not. So I was gon' go up to the bowling center and ask him, Nigga where the child support? {the fucka is also a deadbeat...won't even keep a steady, permanent gig so the county can garnish his wages}. But I had way betta shit to do last night, and I'm sick, so I didn't. He bowled as usual last night...and E's husband was there.
Now E has shared this DL info with her husband...who's shared it with his boy who plays b-ball on the same team as sperm donor. E's hub just told his boy, basically, watch out. Here's the shit that had all the boys like, Fuck dis nigga, last night. Mind you, all the friends that sperm donor had and made while I was with him are gone because he showed his bullshit on everything from money (borrowing and never repaying or leaving bad debts) to whatever (letting folks down on all kinds of misc. shit) at one point or another with those friends. I still see some of those folks, and they're like, "Fuck that nigga...." Not for my benefit, but he burned his bridges.
okay---->
Last night the fellas are drinking and bowling, and between turns to bowl, they're playing tackle football in the cleared out areas. E's hubby's boy tackles sperm donor. While they're still laying on the floor after the tackle sperm donor says, loud enough for most of the fellas to hear, "Aaw naw, you gon' have to fuck me tonight!"
E's hubby said they looked at sperm donor, and he was serious. Hubby said they all broke out, away from that nigga. She said her hubby came home puzzled , like "Did this nigga really say that?"
Get this: sperm donor got MARRIED, and has ANOTHER child on the way. But he talking 'bout fuckin' men, too??
Ahhhhhhhhhhh....the joy I feel about having removed myself from that situation. But I'm still rolling....
Whatever. If one day I become gay, I will most def be on the up and up and OUT about it.
Which brings me to this---->
WHY, oh why oh why??? did my girl/my best friend/my kids' Godmother tell me what she heard about my son's sperm donor??
And this is how it went down. {fuck punctuation and proper sentence/paragraph structure...I'm telling a story: don't edit, read.}
My girl, call her E...her husband bowls at the same spot the sperm donor does. It goes back a while and I don't feel like typing the whole story out right now, but that mufucker is on the DL, but not really. He's on the DL because he hasn't come out, but I guess he's coming more and more out of the closet.
Here's a smidge back story:
Long after we broke up, I still had some old shit on my 'puter that he'd put there. He had the stuff password protected. So I'd called him one day when he was acting like an adult and asked him for the password. He gave me two. Tried one, didn't work; the other did. So I deleted the stuff off my puter.
I got curious and nosey and felt like doing it...so I typed up his email addy, just to see if it would work. It did. Why were my suspicions 'bout dat mufucka confirmed?? This nigga had all kinds of correspondence from women (random chicks he'd meet and fuck), but I already knew he was unfaithful...that's one of many reasons we broke up. But not just women, MEN TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!
AND, it get's better. That day, he hadn't checked his email for a few days...so I scroll down the list of legit stuff, junk, and ass mails...and see a birthday notice from a GAY site. I click that mufucka. It's telling him happy birthday...and reminds him of his password and user name. I go to the site...log in...and check his profile: why is this nigga's name "Bigdicklover"???? Any of yall know him??
It goes on to list out his vital stats...so the question of "it's a mistake" is a nogo. And it lists what he's looking for in a man, one qual. is "...a big dick to suck and get fucked by..." I'm so shocked. and yet I'm rollin' on da mufuckin' flo' at the same time. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO....
and I'm glad that when I ended that relationship, I pronto had myself tested for everything under the mufuckin sinful sun...and I came up NEGATIVE on all.
Now see, the funny thing is that when we broke up, I thought about posting the naked pics I took of him on a gay site. Why? Because in those pics, that nigga looked fruitier than a box of loops, and there was nothing erotic or arousing (for me) in them. It was as if I was a professional photog that he was posing for...for homoerotic literature. I couldn't get wet off those pics if I was hip deep in the Pacific Ocean. Alas, I didn't have to send them in: the nigga sought out gay sites for himself.
Of course, E, being my girl...I told her all about my discoveryl. And I lamented that DAMN, I even had a child with this fucka.
Now...back to today..and the convo my girl tells me about. Sperm donor's phone is d/c. This has happened many times due to his triflingness...but he's gotten it reconnected. Now, however, it's not. So I was gon' go up to the bowling center and ask him, Nigga where the child support? {the fucka is also a deadbeat...won't even keep a steady, permanent gig so the county can garnish his wages}. But I had way betta shit to do last night, and I'm sick, so I didn't. He bowled as usual last night...and E's husband was there.
Now E has shared this DL info with her husband...who's shared it with his boy who plays b-ball on the same team as sperm donor. E's hub just told his boy, basically, watch out. Here's the shit that had all the boys like, Fuck dis nigga, last night. Mind you, all the friends that sperm donor had and made while I was with him are gone because he showed his bullshit on everything from money (borrowing and never repaying or leaving bad debts) to whatever (letting folks down on all kinds of misc. shit) at one point or another with those friends. I still see some of those folks, and they're like, "Fuck that nigga...." Not for my benefit, but he burned his bridges.
okay---->
Last night the fellas are drinking and bowling, and between turns to bowl, they're playing tackle football in the cleared out areas. E's hubby's boy tackles sperm donor. While they're still laying on the floor after the tackle sperm donor says, loud enough for most of the fellas to hear, "Aaw naw, you gon' have to fuck me tonight!"
E's hubby said they looked at sperm donor, and he was serious. Hubby said they all broke out, away from that nigga. She said her hubby came home puzzled , like "Did this nigga really say that?"
Get this: sperm donor got MARRIED, and has ANOTHER child on the way. But he talking 'bout fuckin' men, too??
Ahhhhhhhhhhh....the joy I feel about having removed myself from that situation. But I'm still rolling....
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